One of the most difficult things we may ever have to face in life is the loss of someone we love. A TikTok username Holly Smith understands this very well.
Holly Smith spoke about her 31-year-old partner who died in April 2024. He passed away from a heart attack that came on suddenly and without any warning.
Since passing away, the mother continues to reach out to people on social media and she often posts videos about her life that are very joyful in nature.
Smith even referred to herself as the ‘happy widow’ only five months after losing her partner. Many people were shocked by this, and they began mocking her in the comment section.
@coach_holly_ It’ll high key change your life ngl.
This didn’t stop her from going on and posting another video to respond to the negative comments. It was captioned: ‘Your husband just died, why are you acting like everything is fine?’
The 28-year-old widow explained that she chose to move on and in the video, she was baking a cake with her children. She told those who left negative comments:
“Because he’s not my God, because one guy dying isn’t going to ruin the rest of my life. One bad thing isn’t going to ruin you either. What has happened that’s led you to think that everything is feeling bad and dark and depression.
“You got to fix it, you got to root it out. You got to start walking toward something better. Stop living in the past, stop living in your head, and start walking toward a better future and a better tomorrow.
“Because I promise you, if you will start looking forward to something and create a reason to wake up every day beyond just survival you will start to feel feelings of happiness and joy again.”
@coach_holly_ Keep it moving, don’t live in the past ✌🏻
After posting the TikTok video, thousands of people came on to comment. Some expressed concern about how she was dealing with the grief, even giving their own experience as an example.
There were also some who spoke out to support Holly in what she was doing.
She is accustomed to experiencing comments from the public, whether good or bad. In the end, she says that she feels ‘morally strong’ and adds: “I know that the way I think is different from how other people think.”.
Essentially, she refused to grieve and yet, has still “mourned the loss of her husband and the nine years that we spent building a life together.”.
Her in-laws are also very understanding of what she is going through and how she deals with it. In the end, she says: “There’s no way that I would be this happy and be able to be this OK in my life if there wasn’t a real God in heaven.”